Today we are talking about Tone It Up! Weighted Orgasm Balls which are a type of Kegel exercisers. Kegel exercisers are tools that can help women who are having problems or want some extra help performing the pelvic floor exercises (or Kegels exercises). And there are many types. But before you use any type of Kegel exerciser, we first suggest you know how to do Kegel exercises. They are done by repeatedly contracting and relaxing the muscles in the pelvic floor. But why do them? Well, there are many benefits of doing Kegel exercises such as strengthening the vaginal wall, having orgasms more frequently and intensely, better bladder control, and boosting the overall level of sexual satisfaction.
Now, the Tone It Up! Weighted Orgasm Balls are perfectly weighted, Silicone coated orgasm balls that can be added to your Kegel exercise routine. They also have a sturdy retrieval ring which makes removal easy. It’s 7½ inches long and the balls are 1½ inches wide.
So, how do you use them? First, you want to make sure your bladder is empty. Lubrication is highly recommended to help ease insertion. So, you can do some self pleasuring to help you relax, get aroused and lubed naturally or you can use a water based lubricant. Make sure you put some lubricant on each orgasm ball as well as your vaginal opening. Then the orgasm balls are slowly inserted into the vagina, one at a time. You can then stand up and tighten your pelvic floor muscles to hold the orgasm balls inside your vagina. Some women like to exercise or do other activities with the orgasm balls inserted. And some women like to use them for pleasure along with clitoral stimulation. Not only are they good for your pelvic floor muscles, they also roll around inside the vagina which can produce some very pleasurable sensations!! Not too bad…working out and feeling pleasure!
Now for some safety tips – If you feel discomfort or pain, we suggest you stop using the orgasm balls. It’s also important to not overdo Kegel exercises. If you work the muscles too hard, the muscles will become tired and unable to fulfill their necessary functions.
This month, as CalExotics Expert Sexperts, we were sent another great product to review. Just a reminder, each product is rated, by our testers (2 couples), using The Love Bird’s Feathers Rating Scale™:
1= “Not so hot” to
5 = “VERY, VERY HOT!”
“The hotter the product is, the more feathers it will take to cool you off!”
The new product we received is called the Curve it Up!® Pliable Silicone Probe with Designer Pull Ring. This is a very soft, silky smooth, multipurpose curved probe. It is pliable and durable and also has a heavy-duty metal pull ring for easy removal. It’s body-safe, phthalate free and made of luxurious, pure body safe silicone.
The Curve it Up!® Probe is perfectly sized. It is 4½ inches long and 1½ inches wide. It’s body-safe, phthalate free and made of pure silicone. It’s available in three colors – purple, pink and grey (like shown here). Always use a water-based lubricant with the Curve it Up!® Probe. It cleans easily with soap and water or like we recommend, a toy cleaner. Remember, wash the probe before and after each use.
We found the price of the Curve it Up!® Probe online ranging from $18.29 to $26.95. So, how did our testers rate the Curve it Up!® Probe?
*** FTC Disclosure: We are paid CalExotics’ Expert Sexperts. However, we received three of the products mentioned above free from CalExotics. We then give our two tester couples the products for free in exchange for their honest reviews. The reviews of the products are based on the personal opinions of the two tester couples that reviewed the products for free. We will never misrepresent products or publish a false review. We are disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s Guidelines, CFR, Part 255.
This month, as CalExotics Expert Sexperts, we were sent another great product to review. Just a reminder, each product is rated, by our testers (2 couples), using The Love Bird’s Feathers Rating Scale™:
1= “Not so hot” to
5 = “VERY, VERY HOT!”
“The hotter the product is, the more feathers it will take to cool you off!”
The new product we received is called the Passion Pals™ Humming “G”. This is an incredibly powerful, dual action massager, which means it provides both vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation. It is sized just right for the beginner, intermediate or advanced users of dual stimulators. The shaft is 4½ inches long and the bird shaped stimulator is 1¾ inches long. The Humming “G” stimulator has 7 functions of intense vibration, pulsation and escalation and the shaft has 3 speeds of independent, reversible rotation. The shaft also has 5 rows of non-jamming synchronized rotating beads and the tip of the shaft is slightly curved at the top to hit your “G” erogenous zone.
The Humming “G” has easy push-button controls and super bright LED lights. The bottom button turns the bird shaped stimulator on and operates the different functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation. You simply hold the button for 3 seconds to turn the stimulator off. The middle button turns the shaft and beads and operates the 3 speeds of rotation. Again, you simply hold that button for 3 seconds to turn the shaft off. The top button is used the reverse the rotations of the shaft and beads.
The Humming “G” requires 3 AAA batteries which are not included. It is body-safe, unscented and phthalate free. It is waterproof, which provides lots of thrills in and out of the shower! It is available in two colors – purple and pink (like shown here). Always use a water-based lubricant with this massager. It cleans easily with soap and water or like we recommend, a sex toy cleaner. Remember to wash the Humming “G” before and after each use.
We found the price of the Passion Pals™ Humming “G” online ranging from $47.49 to $69.95. So, how did our testers rate the Humming “G”?
*** FTC Disclosure: We are paid CalExotics’ Expert Sexperts. However, we received three of the products mentioned above free from CalExotics. We then give our two tester couples the products for free in exchange for their honest reviews. The reviews of the products are based on the personal opinions of the two tester couples that reviewed the products for free. We will never misrepresent products or publish a false review. We are disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s Guidelines, CFR, Part 255.
Having date nights when you’re married is really important. We have been married for 16 years now and we still make it a priority to spend that much needed quality time together. Date nights give you the chance to focus on each other without other distractions. They help you have fun and enjoy each other while also keeping you emotionally connected. Below are just a few of our suggestions when it comes to dating when you’re married:
Do’s
- Do things you used to enjoy doing together. When you’ve been together a long time, it’s very easy to get stuck in routines. We sometimes forget the fun things we used to do. Try remembering back to your first dates. What did you do and where did you go? Try to incorporate those ideas into your dates now.
- Do “COURT” each other! We know this is an old term. Courting means to try to gain the love or affections or gain the favor of your partner by attention or flattery. When you were first dating, what were you trying to do? Hopefully, one of your goals was to get another date. Use this strategy because you want another date with your partner!
- Do talk to each other and update your love maps. A love map is the “part of the brain where you store all the relevant information about our partner’s life” (Gottman & Silver, 1999, p. 48). For example, one piece of information you might know is your partner’s favorite flower. We learn these things about our partner over the years, but we sometimes assume this information never changes. However, what your partner liked 5, 10, or 20 years ago may not be the same today. Knowing and understanding each other is really important and helps you maintain your connection. So keep talking and sharing with each other so you can update each other’s love maps.
- Do new and novel things together. Pick something that you both would like, but have never done before. For example, it could be as wild as skydiving to as simple as taking a cooking class together. Remember, novelty creates positive energy and excitement!
- Do put away your cell phones. This is time for you to focus on each other! Enough said.
Don’ts
- Don’t go to the same restaurants and places you normally go. This can create a routine and can lead to you getting stuck in a rut.
- Don’t just go to the movies or watch TV. We don’t consider these date night activities. When you do these activities you are focused on the screen, not each other. Remember, close proximity does not equal quality time!
- Don’t talk about problems with work, the children or in your relationship on your date nights. Don’t get us wrong, these are very important things that you want to discuss…just not on date nights. Remember, you are trying to connect and have fun together!
- Don’t have to spend a lot of money. There are many things you can do for a date night that are free or cost little money. How about taking a bike ride, having a romantic picnic at a local park or watching the sunset together?
We hope these dating suggestions help. As always, wishing you deeper connection and passion in your relationship!
References:
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work. New York, New York: Three Rivers Press.