A: Studies say a common sexually transmitted infection (STI) can. HPV (human papilloma virus) has increased the rates of throat cancer especially in men. Smoking and alcohol abuse used to be the most common risks to get throat cancer, but now HPV has joined the ranks of these two activities. However, there are precautions you can take such as using dental dams or condoms. They can keep oral sex both fun and safe!
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A: Problems and complications can start to happen if you restrict blood flow for hours at a time. Thus, we recommend limiting your use of a penis pump to between 20 and 30 minutes a session. Then promptly remove the pump and give your penis shaft time to recover before using the pump again. We suggest at least 60 minutes between sessions. After that, a good day of rest would be recommended. Your penis will thank you! Remember; never push yourself to the point of pain. If you start to have bruising or red dots on the penis or if you experience numbness, pain or feelings of trapped semen, then it’s time to stop usage. Hope that helps!
A: Premature ejaculation (PE), also called rapid or early ejaculation, is a very common male sexual dysfunction. It can happen with a new partner, in certain situations or if it’s been a while since your last ejaculation. Performance anxiety, guilt and depression can cause PE. Also, certain medical problems can cause PE such as hormonal issues and medication side effects. So, we first suggest you talk to your doctor to rule out any medical causes. If there are no medical issues, here are several techniques you can use to help:
- Stop – Start Technique: You start this technique by yourself by masturbating and bringing yourself close to your moment of ejaculatory inevitability (the sensations you experience just before you have an orgasm). Remember, if you pass this threshold, you are not able to delay your ejaculation. Once at that moment of inevitability, you stop and relax. Then, you start again. Once at that moment of inevitability, you stop and relax again. You continue this process of practicing getting yourself closer to orgasm and then stopping. Once you feel you have mastered this technique, you can use this technique with your partner.
- Squeeze Technique: Again, you start practicing this technique by yourself. Instead of simply stopping at the point of inevitability, you squeeze the base of your penis to reduce your erection and stop ejaculation. Once you practice and master this technique, you can use this technique with your partner.
- Kegel Exercises: These exercises help strengthen your PC muscles which can help control ejaculation. The PC muscle is the muscle that allows you to stop the flow of your urine when urinating. However, once you find your PC muscle, do not practice Kegel exercises when you are urinating. Kegel exercises consist of tightening and releasing the muscles repeatedly for 5-10 seconds for approximately 10-15 reps. You can contract your PC muscle when close to the moment of inevitability to slow delay ejaculation.
- SSRI Antidepressants: Some doctors are prescribing SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors) to help men suffering from PE. SSRIs are a type of antidepressants such as Paxil and Zoloft. These drugs are used due to their side effects of inhibiting sexual arousal and delaying orgasm. You would need to talk to your doctor about this option.
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A: There are many possible reasons why you are having problems getting and keeping erections. It’s important to find out the cause of the problem so you can find the right solution. And there are many solutions! First, we suggest you talk to your doctor since there are a number of medical conditions that can cause erectile dysfunction (ED) such as diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol and low testosterone (just to name a few). Also, your doctor can also make sure that this is not a signal of other health problems. For example, in a recent study, they found that ED may signal heart disease. You can read the article here. Also, certain medication side effects, smoking and excessive alcohol use can cause erectile dysfunction.
Once your doctor rules out any medical causes or health conditions, then we suggest you seek out a sex therapist. There are many psychological factors that can cause ED such as stress, worries, performance anxiety, depression and relationship issues. The bottom line: if you have problems getting or keeping an erection, see you doctor and a sex therapist, if needed. Hope this helps!
A: There is nothing wrong with you! In fact, you’re not alone. Approximately 70% of women need some kind of clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, even during penetrative intercourse! So, if you’re a clitoral girl in a clitoral world (sorry, had to go there!), try using a toy or his or your hand to give you clitoral pleasure during intercourse. With this added stimulation, you may be able to reach orgasm during intercourse. Some women love both sensations.
A: We get this question quite often. Instead of trying to “turn off” her thoughts, we suggest she redirect and focus her thoughts on what she’s experiencing in the moment. To help her with this, she could begin to focus on the pleasurable physical sensations she is experiencing throughout her body. For example, she could focus on what she experiences when her partner touches her skin. And when her thoughts begin to drift away to other things, she would simply redirect her thoughts back to the sensations she is experiencing.
Focusing your mind on the present moment does take some practice outside of the bedroom. So, for instance, she could practice focusing on her breathing and what she experiences when she inhales and exhales. She could also try practicing being mindful in other activities in her life, such as when eating. Slowing down and really focusing on the smells, tastes, temperature and textures of the food she is eating…to truly enjoy the experience. Hope this helps!