Q: What advice would you give a woman who can’t “turn off” her thoughts which are preventing her from enjoying sex?
A: We get this question quite often. Instead of trying to “turn off” her thoughts, we suggest she redirect and focus her thoughts on what she’s experiencing in the moment. To help her with this, she could begin to focus on the pleasurable physical sensations she is experiencing throughout her body. For example, she could focus on what she experiences when her partner touches her skin. And when her thoughts begin to drift away to other things, she would simply redirect her thoughts back to the sensations she is experiencing.
Focusing your mind on the present moment does take some practice outside of the bedroom. So, for instance, she could practice focusing on her breathing and what she experiences when she inhales and exhales. She could also try practicing being mindful in other activities in her life, such as when eating. Slowing down and really focusing on the smells, tastes, temperature and textures of the food she is eating…to truly enjoy the experience. Hope this helps!
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