Kissing is incredibly important for couples. And unfortunately, it’s the first thing that dwindles in long-term relationships. When couples stop kissing, it can be the first step to losing passion in their relationship. Well, this Wednesday, July 6th, is International Kissing Day. Although we think is important to kiss every day, we thought we would share some kissing tips in honor of this special day!
● Great kissing is good for you and your relationship! Kissing releases endorphins and oxytocin which leads to feelings of overall happiness and helps you feel more bonded and connected to your partner. Also, decreases cortisol which is the stress hormone!
● Kissing dos and don’ts are very subjective. Thus, explore your likes with your partner!
● A kiss is great all by itself! Kissing does not have to be a stepping stone to something else like intercourse.
● For many people, kissing is more intimate than intercourse!
So, what makes a “good/bad” kiss? Well, this is very subjective. However, here is what we gathered from our experiences and our work with couples:
● Trying too hard to be perfect at kissing
● Being too stiff and/or too eager
● Kissing too hard
● Having too much tongue / jamming it down partner’s throats
● Having chap lips
● Too much slobber – too much saliva (your partner should not feel like they are drowning!)
● Biting too much or too hard (again…very subjective)
● Bad breath and/or body odor
● Too much lipstick
● Staring at your partner while kissing
● Conveying your feelings about your partner through the kiss
● Being relaxed and natural
● Thinking about your partner and what they like. Let them lead some of the kissing!
● Good hygiene and breath. Carry breath mints!
● Starting off with closed lips and slowly adding some tongue.
● Soft and smooth lips
● Opening your eyes only for a few seconds
● Using your hands too! Soft and affectionate touches on your partner’s face is nice. Or try placing your hand at the back of your partner’s neck.
● Slowing down and enjoying!
First kiss tips:
● Pick your moment and look for the proper setting
● Watch for positive body language
● Don’t ask for a kiss
● Be relaxed and natural
● Keep your tongue to yourself at first. Use the tip of your tongue to play with your partner’s tongue.
● Let your partner lead some too. Remember, you’re learning what they like too!
● Slow down and take your time
● And Enjoy!
Kissing tips for couples in long-term relationships:
● Make it a priority – make a point to kiss every day (longer than a quick peck, please)! Try kissing for more than 10-15 seconds!
● Have make out sessions!
● Please remember, a kiss is great all by itself. Kissing does not have to be a stepping stone to something else. Simply enjoy kissing!