In case you missed our live radio show last Friday night, here it is! We discussed the Sexually Empowered Woman – Getting Back to the Basics with our special guest Dr. Claudia Smith, Board Certified Clinical Sexologist. We also do a sex toy review!.
In case you missed our live radio show last Friday night, here it is! We discussed the Sexually Empowered Woman – Getting Back to the Basics with our special guest Dr. Claudia Smith, Board Certified Clinical Sexologist. We also do a sex toy review!.
We just read about a study, conducted by Carnegie Mellon University researchers, which examined the causal connection between sexual frequency and happiness. The researchers wanted to see if having more sex would lead to increased happiness. Check out the article here.
They found this was not true…while the couples who were instructed to have more sex did have more sex, it did not lead to increased happiness. In fact, they found that couples who were instructed to have more sex actually reported lower sexual desire and a decrease in sexual enjoyment.
We actually see this scenario with many couples we work with. When one partner is solely focused on increasing the frequency of sex, the desire to have sex often decreases for the other partner. For the partner being asked to increase the frequency, sex often feels more like an obligation or another chore to check off the list. Thus, we help these couples shift their focus. Instead of focusing on the frequency of sex, we get them to focus on ways they can spark their desire and make having sex more pleaurable and fun.
It typically starts slowly, without your even noticing. You’re going through your daily routine, and you notice your partner hasn’t been picking up his socks lately, or she keeps leaving the lid off the sugar jar in the mornings after her coffee. Then it’s the thing he forgot at the store, which happened to be the one thing you really needed. Or she completely forgets about your date night, and winds up going out with the girls instead. Over time, you start forming beliefs about your partner based on these behaviors: He’s lazy…she just doesn’t care.
And then you notice the damn socks and the sugar lid again!
What may be happening is a psychological phenomenon known as confirmation bias. It means we have the tendency to look for evidence in the world to confirm our beliefs about things, instead of looking for contrary evidence to test our beliefs. Thus, if you believe your partner is lazy or doesn’t care, you will subconsciously look for evidence throughout the day to support your beliefs.
For instance, in the case of the guy who leaves his socks on the floor and may have a memory issue with the shopping list, you might be noticing those things without really noticing other behaviors that contradict your conclusions that he’s lazy — him walking the dog every morning before waking you up, or always going to the store for you because he knows you’re too tired or the fact that he thought better to get your mom a gift certificate for her favorite Italian restaurant for her birthday instead of sending the stripper. For the lid leaver and absent-minded date-breaker, you might not notice that she makes the coffee for you every morning without fail and that while she broke your date night, she surprised you twice in the last month by sending the kids to her mom’s house for the weekend so you could have uninterrupted alone time.
So, what negative beliefs are you confirming? If you have some negative beliefs about your partner, we invite you to take this month’s relationship challenge. Are you ready?
If you have difficulty with this challenge or feel your negative beliefs about your partner are true and you need help, please feel free to contact us.
This month, as CalExotics Expert Sexperts, we were sent another great product to review. Just a reminder, each product is rated, by our testers (2 couples), using The Love Bird’s Feathers Rating Scale™:
1= “Not so hot” to 5 = “VERY, VERY HOT!”
“The hotter the product is, the more feathers it will take to cool you off!”
So, how many FEATHERS did we give the Entice™ Passion Wheel? Watch the video below to find out!
In this show, we discussed ovarian cancer and sexuality since May is Women’s Health Care Month and in honor of National Women’s Health Week (May 10-16). Our special guests are Ditza Katz, PT, Ph.D. and Ross Lynn Tabisel, LCSW, Ph.D. of Women’s Therapy Center.
Check out this very funny SNL Amazon commercial parody below. Husbands (Jason Sudeikis, Bill Hader) try to please their wives (Vanessa Bayer, Kristen Wiig) with the perfect Mother’s Day gift, but find Fifty Shades of Grey has beat them to it.
Don’t let this happen to you! Instead of giving your special Mom appliances, bath salts, flowers, or breakfast in bed this year, why not get her something that comes straight from her most secret sexual fantasies? Get her something that allows her to embrace her inner goddess, gives her lots of pleasure and helps her bring some Fifty Shades of Grey into her reality.
We are NOT suggesting you surprise your own mother, grandmother, etc. with one of these Fifty Shades of Grey themed toys. Can you imagine the horror!?!? LOL! No, these product ideas are for your wife, partner, significant other, etc.
So, here are some super sexy gift ideas that will surely bring some Fifty Shades of Grey into your special Mom’s reality:
Entice™ Blackout Eyemask – Christian uses a blindfold often on Anastasia during some their sexual encounters. Being blindfolded keeps out visual distractions, creates anticipation and heightens your other senses!
Scandal™ Feather Crop – In one of the play scenes in the Fifty Shades of Grey book, Christian uses a riding crop on Anastasia. Well, this Feather Crop is perfect to help your special Mom to recreate that pleasurable scene! On the one end is a sturdy crop and the other end is a feather tickler which makes this perfect for a little pain and pleasure!
Scandal Over The Bed Cross – Christian uses various types restraints (silk tie, zip ties, etc.) on Anastasia. We recommend this Over the Bed Cross instead. It holds the submissive securely in place while lying comfortably on the bed. The ankle and wrists cuffs are also detachable!
Entice™ Weighted Kegel Balls – In another play scene, Christian spanks Anastasia while she wears ‘Ben Wa’ balls inside her vagina. We suggest trying these rose gold, stainless steel balls that not only provide pleasure, but are also ergonomically weighted to tighten and tone Kegel muscles.
Other Toys – Christian and Anastasia use many toys such as anal plugs and nipple clamps. Here are some toys we recommend for your special Mom’s very own Red Room of Pleasure: Curve it Up!® Pliable Silicone Probe with Designer Pull Ring, Entice™ Passion Wheel, nipple play™ Silver Beaded Nipple Clamps™, Embrace™ Body Wand, and the Entice™ Emilia™.
So for Mother’s Day this year, remember to give your special Mom some fun and sexy gifts that will surely bring some Fifty Shades of Grey into her reality! Happy Mother’s Day!