Today we are talking about Tone It Up! Weighted Orgasm Balls which are a type of Kegel exercisers. Kegel exercisers are tools that can help women who are having problems or want some extra help performing the pelvic floor exercises (or Kegels exercises). And there are many types. But before you use any type of Kegel exerciser, we first suggest you know how to do Kegel exercises. They are done by repeatedly contracting and relaxing the muscles in the pelvic floor. But why do them? Well, there are many benefits of doing Kegel exercises such as strengthening the vaginal wall, having orgasms more frequently and intensely, better bladder control, and boosting the overall level of sexual satisfaction.
Now, the Tone It Up! Weighted Orgasm Balls are perfectly weighted, Silicone coated orgasm balls that can be added to your Kegel exercise routine. They also have a sturdy retrieval ring which makes removal easy. It’s 7½ inches long and the balls are 1½ inches wide.
So, how do you use them? First, you want to make sure your bladder is empty. Lubrication is highly recommended to help ease insertion. So, you can do some self pleasuring to help you relax, get aroused and lubed naturally or you can use a water based lubricant. Make sure you put some lubricant on each orgasm ball as well as your vaginal opening. Then the orgasm balls are slowly inserted into the vagina, one at a time. You can then stand up and tighten your pelvic floor muscles to hold the orgasm balls inside your vagina. Some women like to exercise or do other activities with the orgasm balls inserted. And some women like to use them for pleasure along with clitoral stimulation. Not only are they good for your pelvic floor muscles, they also roll around inside the vagina which can produce some very pleasurable sensations!! Not too bad…working out and feeling pleasure!
Now for some safety tips – If you feel discomfort or pain, we suggest you stop using the orgasm balls. It’s also important to not overdo Kegel exercises. If you work the muscles too hard, the muscles will become tired and unable to fulfill their necessary functions.
This month, as CalExotics Expert Sexperts, we were sent another great product to review. Just a reminder, each product is rated, by our testers (2 couples), using The Love Bird’s Feathers Rating Scale™:
1= “Not so hot” to
5 = “VERY, VERY HOT!”
“The hotter the product is, the more feathers it will take to cool you off!”
The new product we received is called the Curve it Up!® Pliable Silicone Probe with Designer Pull Ring. This is a very soft, silky smooth, multipurpose curved probe. It is pliable and durable and also has a heavy-duty metal pull ring for easy removal. It’s body-safe, phthalate free and made of luxurious, pure body safe silicone.
The Curve it Up!® Probe is perfectly sized. It is 4½ inches long and 1½ inches wide. It’s body-safe, phthalate free and made of pure silicone. It’s available in three colors – purple, pink and grey (like shown here). Always use a water-based lubricant with the Curve it Up!® Probe. It cleans easily with soap and water or like we recommend, a toy cleaner. Remember, wash the probe before and after each use.
We found the price of the Curve it Up!® Probe online ranging from $18.29 to $26.95. So, how did our testers rate the Curve it Up!® Probe?
*** FTC Disclosure: We are paid CalExotics’ Expert Sexperts. However, we received three of the products mentioned above free from CalExotics. We then give our two tester couples the products for free in exchange for their honest reviews. The reviews of the products are based on the personal opinions of the two tester couples that reviewed the products for free. We will never misrepresent products or publish a false review. We are disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s Guidelines, CFR, Part 255.
This month, as CalExotics Expert Sexperts, we were sent another great product to review. Just a reminder, each product is rated, by our testers (2 couples), using The Love Bird’s Feathers Rating Scale™:
1= “Not so hot” to
5 = “VERY, VERY HOT!”
“The hotter the product is, the more feathers it will take to cool you off!”
The new product we received is called the Passion Pals™ Humming “G”. This is an incredibly powerful, dual action massager, which means it provides both vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation. It is sized just right for the beginner, intermediate or advanced users of dual stimulators. The shaft is 4½ inches long and the bird shaped stimulator is 1¾ inches long. The Humming “G” stimulator has 7 functions of intense vibration, pulsation and escalation and the shaft has 3 speeds of independent, reversible rotation. The shaft also has 5 rows of non-jamming synchronized rotating beads and the tip of the shaft is slightly curved at the top to hit your “G” erogenous zone.
The Humming “G” has easy push-button controls and super bright LED lights. The bottom button turns the bird shaped stimulator on and operates the different functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation. You simply hold the button for 3 seconds to turn the stimulator off. The middle button turns the shaft and beads and operates the 3 speeds of rotation. Again, you simply hold that button for 3 seconds to turn the shaft off. The top button is used the reverse the rotations of the shaft and beads.
The Humming “G” requires 3 AAA batteries which are not included. It is body-safe, unscented and phthalate free. It is waterproof, which provides lots of thrills in and out of the shower! It is available in two colors – purple and pink (like shown here). Always use a water-based lubricant with this massager. It cleans easily with soap and water or like we recommend, a sex toy cleaner. Remember to wash the Humming “G” before and after each use.
We found the price of the Passion Pals™ Humming “G” online ranging from $47.49 to $69.95. So, how did our testers rate the Humming “G”?
*** FTC Disclosure: We are paid CalExotics’ Expert Sexperts. However, we received three of the products mentioned above free from CalExotics. We then give our two tester couples the products for free in exchange for their honest reviews. The reviews of the products are based on the personal opinions of the two tester couples that reviewed the products for free. We will never misrepresent products or publish a false review. We are disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s Guidelines, CFR, Part 255.
Having date nights when you’re married is really important. We have been married for 16 years now and we still make it a priority to spend that much needed quality time together. Date nights give you the chance to focus on each other without other distractions. They help you have fun and enjoy each other while also keeping you emotionally connected. Below are just a few of our suggestions when it comes to dating when you’re married:
Do’s
- Do things you used to enjoy doing together. When you’ve been together a long time, it’s very easy to get stuck in routines. We sometimes forget the fun things we used to do. Try remembering back to your first dates. What did you do and where did you go? Try to incorporate those ideas into your dates now.
- Do “COURT” each other! We know this is an old term. Courting means to try to gain the love or affections or gain the favor of your partner by attention or flattery. When you were first dating, what were you trying to do? Hopefully, one of your goals was to get another date. Use this strategy because you want another date with your partner!
- Do talk to each other and update your love maps. A love map is the “part of the brain where you store all the relevant information about our partner’s life” (Gottman & Silver, 1999, p. 48). For example, one piece of information you might know is your partner’s favorite flower. We learn these things about our partner over the years, but we sometimes assume this information never changes. However, what your partner liked 5, 10, or 20 years ago may not be the same today. Knowing and understanding each other is really important and helps you maintain your connection. So keep talking and sharing with each other so you can update each other’s love maps.
- Do new and novel things together. Pick something that you both would like, but have never done before. For example, it could be as wild as skydiving to as simple as taking a cooking class together. Remember, novelty creates positive energy and excitement!
- Do put away your cell phones. This is time for you to focus on each other! Enough said.
Don’ts
- Don’t go to the same restaurants and places you normally go. This can create a routine and can lead to you getting stuck in a rut.
- Don’t just go to the movies or watch TV. We don’t consider these date night activities. When you do these activities you are focused on the screen, not each other. Remember, close proximity does not equal quality time!
- Don’t talk about problems with work, the children or in your relationship on your date nights. Don’t get us wrong, these are very important things that you want to discuss…just not on date nights. Remember, you are trying to connect and have fun together!
- Don’t have to spend a lot of money. There are many things you can do for a date night that are free or cost little money. How about taking a bike ride, having a romantic picnic at a local park or watching the sunset together?
We hope these dating suggestions help. As always, wishing you deeper connection and passion in your relationship!
References:
Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work. New York, New York: Three Rivers Press.
This month, as CalExotics Expert Sexperts, we were sent another great product to review. Just a reminder, each product is rated, by our testers (2 couples), using The Love Bird’s Feathers Rating Scale™:
1= “Not so hot” to
5 = “VERY, VERY HOT!”
“The hotter the product is, the more feathers it will take to cool you off!”
The new product we received is called the Entice™ Natalie™. This is an incredibly powerful, dual action massager, which means it provides both vaginal penetration and clitoral stimulation. The shaft is 4 inches long and the stimulator, with bunny-like ears, is 2 inches long. The Natalie™ has 10 functions of vibration, pulsation and escalation. This ergonomically curved massager flexes and moves with you!
The Natalie™ has dual motors and easy push button controls. One button turns the massager on and off and the other button operates the different functions. It requires 2 AAA batteries which are not included. It is body-safe, unscented and phthalate free. It’s made of pure Silicone and has a silky, smooth finish. The Natalie™ is waterproof, which provides lots of thrills in and out of the shower! It is available in three colors –pink , purple and raspberry(like shown here). Always use a water-based lubricant with this massager. It cleans easily with soap and water or like we recommend, a sex toy cleaner. Remember to wash the Natalie™ before and after each use.
We found the price of the Entice™ Natalie™ online ranging from $40.99 to $50.00. So, how did our testers rate the Entice™ Natalie™?
*** FTC Disclosure: We are paid CalExotics’ Expert Sexperts. However, we received three of the products mentioned above free from CalExotics. We then give our two tester couples the products for free in exchange for their honest reviews. The reviews of the products are based on the personal opinions of the two tester couples that reviewed the products for free. We will never misrepresent products or publish a false review. We are disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s Guidelines, CFR, Part 255.
Today we are talking all about the CalExotics’ Aluminum Heat Wave Massagers and Teasers. There’s nothing hotter than these vibes in this new collection! This collection offers two types of massagers and teasers (Standard and Slender). These vibes are lightweight, powerful and made of aluminum, which means they maintain and retain body heat. They also have incredible warming action and offer therapeutic heat rays for increased blood circulation.
Now, the type of massager we are showing is the Aluminum Heat Wave – Slender Massager. This slender massager has a high intensity motor and has 2 speeds of vibration. The easy push button control is located at the bottom of the massager. It turns the massager off and on and operates the 2 speeds of vibration. It warms to an incredible 124°F/51°C as it vibrates and it is waterproof, so you can use it in and out of the shower! It is 6 ¼ inches long and requires 2 AA batteries, which are not included. You can get this massager in purple, silver and pink, like shown here.
Next, the type of teaser we are showing is the Aluminum Heat Wave – Standard Teaser. This remote control, bullet-style, teaser also has a high intensity motor and 2 speeds of vibrations. The one button on the remote control turns the teaser off and on and operates the 2 speeds of vibrations. The cord measures approximately 2 ½ feet. The teaser warms to an incredible 129°F/52°C as it vibrates and it is waterproof, so you can use it in and out of the shower! However, the remote control is not waterproof. The teaser is 2 ¾ inches long and requires 2 AA batteries, which are not included. You can get this teaser in purple, pink and silver, like shown here. Always use a water-based lubricant with all of the Aluminum Heat Wave Massagers and Teasers. These vibes clean easily with soap and water or, like we recommend, a sex toy cleaner. Remember, wash the them before and after each use and remove the batteries when they are not in use.
You wake up in the middle of the night to strange noises and screams outside of your house. You look outside and see bloody people running everywhere, your neighbor’s house is on fire and your car is surrounded by zombies. You only have a few moments to gather life saving supplies. How do you choose? We are here to help. You don’t want to be caught off guard.
Those of you that are fans of the AMC show The Walking Dead, like we are, know you should always be prepared for a zombie apocalypse. As Sexologists, we often discuss the sexual health and wellness benefits of sex toys. However, we bet you never thought the benefits would include zombie survival!
Our zombie apocalypse sex toy survival kit is just perfect to not only ensure your sex life will survive, but could also save your life against zombies. We are here to help you think outside of your sex toy box. To help you get started, here are the top 5 must haves for your zombie apocalypse sex toy survival kit:
1. Nick Hawk™ GIGOLO Tie Me Up & Tease Me™ Kit
This kit is a must have! It comes with 20.75 feet of rope, a blind fold, weighted stainless steel kegel balls and a feather tickler. So, you can use the rope to do lots of survival things such as repel down a cliff, make a booby trap, and hold things together when needed. You can use the blind fold to help you get the much needed sleep. You can use the weighted kegel balls as ammo in sling shot and the feather tickler as a paint brush to send messages to other people (beats getting your hand all bloody!). And when things are quiet, you can still get a little kinky with your partner!
2. Remote Control 10-Function Little Black Panty™ and Apollo™ Boxer with C-Ring
You need the perfect underwear in a zombie apocalypse. For ladies, we suggest the Remote Control 10-Function Little Black Panty™. Not only is this panty stretchy and comfortable especially when running from zombies, but it also comes with a 10 function vibrating, body forming bullet! So, you can still feel sexy, have pleasure and survive! For guys, we recommend the Apollo™ Boxer with C-Ring. This boxer is stretchy, comfortable, and comes with a built-in removable enhancer ring. This ring can help you not only maintain an erection in stressful, apocalyptic times, but can also be used with the rope mentioned above.
3. Scandal™ Ball Gag and Scandal™ Collar with Leash
Pet Zombie Supplies! If you want to be like Michonne in The Walking Dead and have pet zombies, you will definitely want these in your survival kit. Okay, not only does the ball gag and collar with leash help you with erotic play but these can be used to stop your pet zombies from getting away and biting you!
4. Waterproof Glow-In-The-Dark Stud ®
This is a 7 inch, waterproof, multi-speed vibrating dildo that also glows in the dark. You definitely need a light source in the zombie apocalypse! So, you can light up the night and have lots of fun!! Plus, it’s a great way to keep your batteries dry. Extra bonus!
5. Love Poker™ Game
When things are quiet, you are likely to get bored. Thus, this game can open the door to passion, rekindle romance, strip away inhibitions, and encourage great dialogue between you and your lover. Boredom solved!
We hope this helps. So don’t wait…take the time to start preparing your zombie sex toy survival kit now! What sex toys/aids would you add to the zombie sex toy survival kit and why?
We all know sex toys can be a healthy and welcome addition to a couple’s bedroom practices; however there are so many sex toys and pleasure products available in the market today. In fact, there are over 114 million results for “sex toys” on Google and over 35 thousand results for “sex toys” on Amazon. So, where do you start? How do you decide which toy is right for you and your partner? Unfortunately, most people simply guess which one is right for them. Well, here are 3 easy steps to help you get started along with some important safety tips to consider:
1. Decide – First, you have to decide what you want a sex toy to do? Meaning, what pleasure are you seeking from the toy? What erogenous zone(s) do you want stimulated and how? For example, do you want a sex toy to provide internal vaginal stimulation, clitoral stimulation or both? Do you want a sex toy for anal stimulation? Do you want to experiment with vibrations, pulsations and escalations? Is the sex toy for you or your partner?
Here are just a few types of sex toys to think about:
- Vibrators: Sex toys that vibrate and are used for sexual stimulation. These can be used on any erogenous zone.
- Dildos: Sex toys that are shaped like an erect penis and are used for some type of penetration such as vaginal or anal penetration.
- Anal Sex Toys: Toys that are designed specifically for safe anal penetration. They will typically have a flared base or some type of handle. Due to the suction, if the toy doesn’t have a base, it is possible for it to get pulled up into the rectum. You want make sure the toy is smooth and seamless.
- Penis Rings (cock rings): ): A ring that’s worn around the base of the penis that can prolong an erection. Some rings come with mini vibrating bullets that can be pleasurable for both the wearer and the partner.
- BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism) Toys: These toys include floggers, paddles, nipple clamps, restraints, blindfolds, and much more.
- Lubricants, Adult Movies and Erotica: Remember, these can be considered sexual toys/aids as well!
2. Research Together – Next, we suggest that you begin researching sex toys and pleasure products together. WARNING: This alone can start to create some anticipation and sexual desire! You can research sex toys through online adult stores or by visiting adult stores in your area. People love going to Toys R Us and other toy stores, because the displays are just amazingly vibrant — all the counters and walls are draped with these bright, blazing primary colors with packages designed to capture the eye and hold your attention. Similarly, it’s also fun going to brick and mortar couples’ stores where adult sex toys are sold, because the displays are strikingly the same, awash in primary colors with a few more bright pinks, reds and purples — though the imagery is typically far from family friendly!
3. Now Experiment – You may have to try a few sex toys before you find out works best for you. You may want to start out with a less expensive sex toy first and one that is simple. And remember, just because a sex toy is expensive does not mean it’s a good toy for you!
Some Sex Toy Safety Tips!
- Make sure to find out what the toy is made of in order to avoid any potential allergic reactions. For example, some people are allergic to latex and some toys are made with latex.
- Find a toy that has quality materials. When in doubt, look for the Safe and Pure logo, found on many CalExotics products.
- If you are using your toy for anal sex make sure the toy has a base. Due to the suction, if the toy doesn’t have a base, it is possible for it to get pulled up into the rectum.
- Make sure the toy doesn’t have any sharp edges and it is smooth and seamless.
- If using a penis ring, don’t use it longer than 30 minutes at a time. Remove immediately if experiencing pain or discomfort.
- Even though we advise against it, if you are going to share your toy or use it both vaginally and anally, put a condom on it to minimize the risk of transmitting infections.
- Make sure you use lubrication that is appropriate for the toy. Water-based lubes tend to be safe for most sex toys.
- Clean the toy before the first use and after each use with soap and water or a sex toy cleaner.
- Remember to follow the manufacturer’s recommendation on how to clean the sex toy and on the best lubricant to use with the toy.
This month, as CalExotics Expert Sexperts, we were sent another great product to review. Just a reminder, each product is rated, by our testers (2 couples), using The Love Bird’s Feathers Rating Scale™:
1= “Not so hot” to
5 = “VERY, VERY HOT!”
“The hotter the product is, the more feathers it will take to cool you off!”
The new product we received is called the Apollo™ Wireless 7-Function Stroker. This a soft, tight, stretchy stroker that also comes with a removable vibrating bullet style stimulator. This textured stroker is also reversible which is great for added sensations. The stimulator can be placed on the top or side of the stroker and it has 7 functions of intense vibrations, pulsations and escalations.
You can use the Apollo™ Wireless 7-Function Stroker alone or with the stimulator. The stimulator has just one button. Simply press it to turn the stimulator on and move through the different functions. And hold the button for 3 seconds to turn it off. The stroker is 6 inches long and 2½ inches wide. The stimulator is 2.25 inches long.
The Apollo™ Wireless 7-Function Stroker requires 3 watch size batteries and 6 batteries are included. The stroker is made of TPR or Thermoplastic rubber and the stimulator is made of ABS plastic with silver plating. The Apollo™ Wireless 7-Function Stroker is body-safe and phthalate free. It is also waterproof, so you can have lots of fun in or out of the shower! It’s available in two colors – blue and smoke (like shown here).
Always use a water-based lubricant with the Apollo™ Wireless 7-Function Stroker. It cleans easily with soap and water or like we recommend, a toy cleaner. Remember, wash the Apollo™ Wireless 7-Function Stroker before and after each use and remove the batteries when it’s not in use.
We found the price of the Apollo™ Wireless 7-Function Stroker online ranging from $31.00 to $39.95. So, how did our testers rate the Apollo™ Wireless 7-Function Stroker?
*** FTC Disclosure: We are paid CalExotics’ Expert Sexperts. However, we received three of the products mentioned above free from CalExotics. We then give our two tester couples the products for free in exchange for their honest reviews. The reviews of the products are based on the personal opinions of the two tester couples that reviewed the products for free. We will never misrepresent products or publish a false review. We are disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s Guidelines, CFR, Part 255.
This month, as CalExotics Expert Sexperts, we were sent another great product to review. Just a reminder, each product is rated, by our testers (2 couples), using The Love Bird’s Feathers Rating Scale™:
1= “Not so hot” to
5 = “VERY, VERY HOT!”
“The hotter the product is, the more feathers it will take to cool you off!”
The new product we received is called the Booty Call® – Booty Vibro Kit. This kit comes with a bullet-style stimulator and two silicone probes: tapered and beaded. What’s great is this kit provides multiple toys in one. You can use the stimulator and probes together or separately.
The bullet is operated with a handheld controller and provides powerful multi-speed vibrations. The speeds of vibrations are easily controlled by the gradual turn dial on the side of the controller. The wire connecting the bullet and the controller is approximately 30 inches long. The bullet is 2 inches long. The tapered probe is 3.75 inches long and the beaded probe is 4.5 inches long.
The Booty Call® – Booty Vibro Kit requires 2 AAA batteries which are not included. The probes are pliable, durable, nonporous and seamless. They are body-safe, phthalate free and made of pure silicone. The probes are waterproof but the bullet and controller are not. The kit is available in two colors –pink and black (like shown here).
Always use a water-based lubricant with this kit. The probes clean easily by boiling them in water to remove bacteria and a toy cleaner. Since it is not waterproof, the bullet can be cleaned with a toy cleaner. Remember, wash Booty Call® – Booty Vibro Kit before and after each use and remove the batteries when it’s not in use.
We found the price of the Booty Call® – Booty Vibro Kit online ranging from $15.46 to $24.99. So, how did our testers rate the Booty Call® – Booty Vibro Kit? Watch the video below to find out!
*** FTC Disclosure: We are paid CalExotics’ Expert Sexperts. However, we received three of the products mentioned above free from CalExotics. We then give our two tester couples the products for free in exchange for their honest reviews. The reviews of the products are based on the personal opinions of the two tester couples that reviewed the products for free. We will never misrepresent products or publish a false review. We are disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s Guidelines, CFR, Part 255.